Consent is a huge deal when it comes to BDSM play – whether it's a one-time scene or an ongoing dynamic. It's important for both the submissive and the dominant to clearly communicate their boundaries and desires, and for both parties to actively seek and give consent at every step.
Have you heard of the principle "Safe, Sane, and Consensual"? It's a cornerstone of BDSM, and it means that all play should be safe for all parties involved, should be undertaken with a clear and sober mind, and should involve the explicit consent of all parties.
There are lots of ways to give and seek consent – it can be verbal, like talking through boundaries and desires beforehand, or it can be nonverbal, like using safe words or other signals during the scene. It's important that both parties feel comfortable and able to communicate their boundaries and desires clearly. And don't forget to debrief after the scene to talk about what worked and what didn't for each person.
Consent is not a one-time thing, either. It's something that should be ongoing and revisited regularly, because our boundaries and desires can change over time. It's crucial to have open, honest communication and to check in with each other regularly to make sure that both parties are still comfortable with the dynamic.
In short, consent is vital in BDSM play. Both the submissive and the dominant need to clearly communicate their boundaries and desires, seek and give consent at every step, and regularly check in with each other to make sure the dynamic is still enjoyable for both parties.